A black-and-white photo of a person mid-air in a Superman-style body suspension pose, supported by multiple hooks in their back and legs, smiling joyfully toward the camera. They are suspended horizontally in a large indoor space with high ceilings and visible rigging. A group of onlookers—some seated, some standing—watch with expressions of admiration, amusement, and support. The atmosphere is lively and communal, capturing a moment of shared experience and transformation.

A Word On “New Trends” and Perspective

If you have been on the internet in the past three months odds are you have seen at least one story almost exactly like this photo below.

toddlerLate author edit: The link and photo above is from a satirical website. This entire post is more about news sources that will grab anything even remotely shocking and run with it. Yes this time it is satire but it doesn’t take much for something to become “Fact” on the internet these days. The following talk about perspective is about us “playing pretend” if this WAS becoming a widespread practice. 

Is this potentially shocking (fake or not)? Yes. Is this a new trend? No. One of the biggest annoyances I have about social media and this new wave of “TOP TEN MOST DISTURBING WHATEVER” lists is the fact that the “new trend” tag is used far too frequently. These are a few isolated cases of poorly made choices or completely made up stories being taken out of context for clicks to a website. This is the exact same issue we recently had with the eyelet being worn in a large labret photo. I do realize that body modification is not the only victim of these click hungry times, but it does almost feel like a blow to the gut as the internet is really starting to desensitize folks more than ever. I mean that last statement in a positive light because in my opinion when you get over the initial shock and awe of something you can begin to really understand more about what you’re viewing. ModBlog did exactly that for me a long time ago and will continue to.

Now on to what can we do about this whole thing…Satirical websites will be around forever and have their place, but the spread of bad information is an entirely different monster. We can be the messengers of good information and present ourselves and modifications in a positive light for the world to see. There will always be the hard nosed naysayers out there, but we need them too. I don’t mind if you oppose my train of thought or lifestlye but I mind if you trash it unintelligently. If you believe in this community and are absolutely sick of seeing ridiculous modification related things in your every day news feeds then spread good information. We can’t fault anyone for not being as educated as we are on a topic but we can fault ourselves for not attempting to educate.

I’d also like to throw a completely separate talk about perspective in this post. This is a thinking point that will be possibly controversial but interesting at the least. Taking the photo above for what it is worth, even if it is photoshop /satire what have you… how did it make you feel? The photo below is one of many that a fast internet search yielded. I don’t have the photographer credit but if anyone has it let me know so I can update this post immediately. My point being here that the modification of young children-young adults is deeply ingrained in many cultures. This particular photo was posted as a child of the Mursi tribe however I can’t fully verify that as truth. Either way my point should be made.

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Did you bat an eye at this? What if this photo pulled out to reveal a young African American child in an urban setting who’s parents began stretching their ears while they were an infant? Would that change your opinion on what is acceptable? A quick comparative example is that many parents are vegan, and therefore feel it is right to raise vegan children. I’m not comparing apples to apples here I know but it is just an example of parents passing down values or beliefs.  Many ModBlog followers also subscribe to the modern primitive movement, and may choose to us raise a child according to our own ideals. Would early age modification or “family rites of passage” be considered an abomination or culturally significant?

This is the matter of perspective I’m talking about, where we are very quick to slam one group of people for doing the same things we may admire another group for. Please don’t misinterpret what I’m saying here, my personal opinion is that a non consenting human being should not be modified under any circumstance- cultural tradition permitting or not. All of these things go back to the roots of body modification as a whole and in my opinion a topic that needs to be discussed. Large gauge piercings especially stretched earlobe piercings are becoming more acceptable than ever. Does this fact mean that as a modern society we are starting to pass this new (old) cultural wave on to our children? I would love to hear everybody’s thoughts on this.

Comments

24 responses to “A Word On “New Trends” and Perspective”

  1. Tobias Avatar

    If you believe forcing your baby to have earlobe piercings is OK, you don’t really have a say in much along the same lines. The people freaking out over these pictures of younger kids with tapering pins in their ears are the same ones taking their children to Claire’s because Mommy really wants her daughter to look prettier.

  2. Tobias Avatar

    If you believe forcing your baby to have earlobe piercings is OK, you don’t really have a say in much along the same lines. The people freaking out over these pictures of younger kids with tapering pins in their ears are the same ones taking their children to Claire’s because Mommy really wants her daughter to look prettier.

  3. Tobias Avatar

    If you believe forcing your baby to have earlobe piercings is OK, you don’t really have a say in much along the same lines. The people freaking out over these pictures of younger kids with tapering pins in their ears are the same ones taking their children to Claire’s because Mommy really wants her daughter to look prettier.

  4. Cara Avatar
    Cara

    I have many body mods, piercings, stretched lobes etc but if I had a child I would wait for them to grow up and make their own choice. I think with children in tribes it is a cultural choice and has often been going on for generations but even now, tribes are coming around to the idea that labret stretching for example is cruel on the women that are forced to do it.

    I think that parents gauging their children’s ears in the western world though, is a fashion choice and nothing more. I stretch my ears because I enjoy it but I wouldn’t force it upon a person as I think it is a personal preference. My personal opinion is that it is unfair to pierce and modify your children when they can’t make their own decision about it.

  5. Cara Avatar
    Cara

    I have many body mods, piercings, stretched lobes etc but if I had a child I would wait for them to grow up and make their own choice. I think with children in tribes it is a cultural choice and has often been going on for generations but even now, tribes are coming around to the idea that labret stretching for example is cruel on the women that are forced to do it.

    I think that parents gauging their children’s ears in the western world though, is a fashion choice and nothing more. I stretch my ears because I enjoy it but I wouldn’t force it upon a person as I think it is a personal preference. My personal opinion is that it is unfair to pierce and modify your children when they can’t make their own decision about it.

  6. Cara Avatar
    Cara

    I have many body mods, piercings, stretched lobes etc but if I had a child I would wait for them to grow up and make their own choice. I think with children in tribes it is a cultural choice and has often been going on for generations but even now, tribes are coming around to the idea that labret stretching for example is cruel on the women that are forced to do it.

    I think that parents gauging their children’s ears in the western world though, is a fashion choice and nothing more. I stretch my ears because I enjoy it but I wouldn’t force it upon a person as I think it is a personal preference. My personal opinion is that it is unfair to pierce and modify your children when they can’t make their own decision about it.

  7. smurf666 Avatar
    smurf666

    Any forced modification on a child/toddler is wrong IMO. Whether it’s pierced ears, stretched lobes or more sinister “mainstream” stuff like circumsism or FGM.

  8. smurf666 Avatar
    smurf666

    Any forced modification on a child/toddler is wrong IMO. Whether it’s pierced ears, stretched lobes or more sinister “mainstream” stuff like circumsism or FGM.

  9. smurf666 Avatar
    smurf666

    Any forced modification on a child/toddler is wrong IMO. Whether it’s pierced ears, stretched lobes or more sinister “mainstream” stuff like circumsism or FGM.

  10. Sean Philips Avatar
    Sean Philips

    If people of the internet would just take two seconds to look into the source of the stories they make viral on Facebook PERHAPS they would realize that most are satire. This included.

  11. Sean Philips Avatar
    Sean Philips

    If people of the internet would just take two seconds to look into the source of the stories they make viral on Facebook PERHAPS they would realize that most are satire. This included.

  12. Sean Philips Avatar
    Sean Philips

    If people of the internet would just take two seconds to look into the source of the stories they make viral on Facebook PERHAPS they would realize that most are satire. This included.

  13. Dace Avatar
    Dace

    Shoving acrylic tapers through a non-consenting child’s ears almost definitely stretching too quickly and possibly hurting/damaging them… Yeah-no.

  14. Dace Avatar
    Dace

    Shoving acrylic tapers through a non-consenting child’s ears almost definitely stretching too quickly and possibly hurting/damaging them… Yeah-no.

  15. Dace Avatar
    Dace

    Shoving acrylic tapers through a non-consenting child’s ears almost definitely stretching too quickly and possibly hurting/damaging them… Yeah-no.

  16. Aikooller Avatar
    Aikooller

    Honestly, terrible idea to even pierce their ears at a young age. I’d just wait and let the kid decide what they want when they are older

  17. Aikooller Avatar
    Aikooller

    Honestly, terrible idea to even pierce their ears at a young age. I’d just wait and let the kid decide what they want when they are older

  18. Aikooller Avatar
    Aikooller

    Honestly, terrible idea to even pierce their ears at a young age. I’d just wait and let the kid decide what they want when they are older

  19. sick of bigots Avatar
    sick of bigots

    Comparing mutilations to a child’s body to veganism is offensive and uncalled for. You imply that it’s somehow controversial to allow kids to be vegan, many ignorant bigots have this opinion but it is unjustified.

    In answer to the hypothetical question between an rural tribal child and a western child having their ears stretched, is that (a) in certain rural tribal cultures, these are deeply ingrained, meaningful traditions as opposed to recent temporary fashions, (b) these traditions started many centuries ago (or longer) before people were aware of infections and ethics etc, and (c) rural people in poor countries may still be uneducated and unaware of infection risk and conventional ethics.

  20. sick of bigots Avatar
    sick of bigots

    Comparing mutilations to a child’s body to veganism is offensive and uncalled for. You imply that it’s somehow controversial to allow kids to be vegan, many ignorant bigots have this opinion but it is unjustified.

    In answer to the hypothetical question between an rural tribal child and a western child having their ears stretched, is that (a) in certain rural tribal cultures, these are deeply ingrained, meaningful traditions as opposed to recent temporary fashions, (b) these traditions started many centuries ago (or longer) before people were aware of infections and ethics etc, and (c) rural people in poor countries may still be uneducated and unaware of infection risk and conventional ethics.

  21. sick of bigots Avatar
    sick of bigots

    Comparing mutilations to a child’s body to veganism is offensive and uncalled for. You imply that it’s somehow controversial to allow kids to be vegan, many ignorant bigots have this opinion but it is unjustified.

    In answer to the hypothetical question between an rural tribal child and a western child having their ears stretched, is that (a) in certain rural tribal cultures, these are deeply ingrained, meaningful traditions as opposed to recent temporary fashions, (b) these traditions started many centuries ago (or longer) before people were aware of infections and ethics etc, and (c) rural people in poor countries may still be uneducated and unaware of infection risk and conventional ethics.

  22. Coyote Black Avatar
    Coyote Black

    @sick of bigots I was only using the example of passing veganism down to your children as parents sharing “less mainstream” ideals with their children. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a vegan household, or raising vegan children. My child eats mostly vegetarian right now. I certainly didn’t mean for the comparison to come off as it did for you. Thats why I threw the “I know I’m not comparing apples to apples” in there. I do appreciate your input and I’m glad you commented here so we could clear this up. Sorry if you were offended in any way, perhaps I should have used a better example.

  23. Coyote Black Avatar
    Coyote Black

    @sick of bigots I was only using the example of passing veganism down to your children as parents sharing “less mainstream” ideals with their children. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a vegan household, or raising vegan children. My child eats mostly vegetarian right now. I certainly didn’t mean for the comparison to come off as it did for you. Thats why I threw the “I know I’m not comparing apples to apples” in there. I do appreciate your input and I’m glad you commented here so we could clear this up. Sorry if you were offended in any way, perhaps I should have used a better example.

  24. Coyote Black Avatar
    Coyote Black

    @sick of bigots I was only using the example of passing veganism down to your children as parents sharing “less mainstream” ideals with their children. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a vegan household, or raising vegan children. My child eats mostly vegetarian right now. I certainly didn’t mean for the comparison to come off as it did for you. Thats why I threw the “I know I’m not comparing apples to apples” in there. I do appreciate your input and I’m glad you commented here so we could clear this up. Sorry if you were offended in any way, perhaps I should have used a better example.

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