A black-and-white photo of a person mid-air in a Superman-style body suspension pose, supported by multiple hooks in their back and legs, smiling joyfully toward the camera. They are suspended horizontally in a large indoor space with high ceilings and visible rigging. A group of onlookers—some seated, some standing—watch with expressions of admiration, amusement, and support. The atmosphere is lively and communal, capturing a moment of shared experience and transformation.

A helping hand

If you recall, back in July some members of our community were involved in a car accident.  Now while most of them have recovered, Arwen “Spliff” Rosa is still in the ICU.

While he has made progress, he’s not out of the woods yet and is still in need of constant care.  Spliff and his wife Jill are from NYC and have been in Texas since the accident.  While the support has been incredible, Jill is 7 months pregnant with their child and when the baby is born it will become incredibly difficult to care for both Spliff and the baby.  Back in NYC the two have a large support network of family and friends, and are now looking to get Arwen transferred to a facility in NYC.

They have been accepted into an excellent facility and are now on the wait list.  When the call comes, they will have 4 days to move Arwen from Texas to NYC or they will lose their spot.  Due to his condition, Spliff will require a medical air transport, which isn’t cheap.

From Jill:  “The goal we need to work with right now is getting him/us back home to New York. Arwen has been accepted to a facility there. We are waiting for a bed to open up for him. Once we get that call we’ve got about 4 days to make it there before they pass it on to who’s next on the list. We were going to use long distance ground transport, but due to his health and the weather headed back east it seems to be a dangerous idea. We need to fly him home.”

Arwen is not getting the care he needs out here and there’s only a couple people who can physically help us. In New York we’ve got family, support system, lots of resources, everything we need. Not to mention our Baby girl is due in about 8 weeks! I have been trying to look into medical foundations and charities so far with no luck. Please help if you can.

Suspension.org has set up a donation page and are looking for help.  If you have anything that you can give, head on over to the donation page and give what you can.

Comments

112 responses to “A helping hand”

  1. Neil CoRE and AGRO Avatar
    Neil CoRE and AGRO

    Thank you for posting this Rob. I was following behind them when it happened, and it was horrific to watch. Spliff and Jill are two of the most amazing people I’ve ever met, and they never deserved any of this. Let’s get them home!!!

  2. Neil CoRE and AGRO Avatar
    Neil CoRE and AGRO

    Thank you for posting this Rob. I was following behind them when it happened, and it was horrific to watch. Spliff and Jill are two of the most amazing people I’ve ever met, and they never deserved any of this. Let’s get them home!!!

  3. Neil CoRE and AGRO Avatar
    Neil CoRE and AGRO

    Thank you for posting this Rob. I was following behind them when it happened, and it was horrific to watch. Spliff and Jill are two of the most amazing people I’ve ever met, and they never deserved any of this. Let’s get them home!!!

  4. Neil CoRE and AGRO Avatar
    Neil CoRE and AGRO

    Thank you for posting this Rob. I was following behind them when it happened, and it was horrific to watch. Spliff and Jill are two of the most amazing people I’ve ever met, and they never deserved any of this. Let’s get them home!!!

  5. oppositronic Avatar
    oppositronic

    i’m sure he was aware of the risks before embarking the autovehicle.

  6. oppositronic Avatar
    oppositronic

    i’m sure he was aware of the risks before embarking the autovehicle.

  7. oppositronic Avatar
    oppositronic

    i’m sure he was aware of the risks before embarking the autovehicle.

  8. oppositronic Avatar
    oppositronic

    i’m sure he was aware of the risks before embarking the autovehicle.

  9. Amanda Avatar
    Amanda

    They had a tire blow out and a car accident. It could happen to anyone. Don’t be such a dick oppositronic.

  10. Amanda Avatar
    Amanda

    They had a tire blow out and a car accident. It could happen to anyone. Don’t be such a dick oppositronic.

  11. Amanda Avatar
    Amanda

    They had a tire blow out and a car accident. It could happen to anyone. Don’t be such a dick oppositronic.

  12. Amanda Avatar
    Amanda

    They had a tire blow out and a car accident. It could happen to anyone. Don’t be such a dick oppositronic.

  13. Adhara Avatar
    Adhara

    Just reposted to Facebook. I would hope that if anything happened to me or my loved ones, peopel would help out.

  14. Adhara Avatar
    Adhara

    Just reposted to Facebook. I would hope that if anything happened to me or my loved ones, peopel would help out.

  15. Adhara Avatar
    Adhara

    Just reposted to Facebook. I would hope that if anything happened to me or my loved ones, peopel would help out.

  16. Adhara Avatar
    Adhara

    Just reposted to Facebook. I would hope that if anything happened to me or my loved ones, peopel would help out.

  17. Tim Taylor Avatar
    Tim Taylor

    Yeah but I bet you didn’t know you comment was going to get you slapped in the mouth. Let any of us find out who you are. And if you got problems my full name is right here and I’m not hard to track down!

  18. Tim Taylor Avatar
    Tim Taylor

    Yeah but I bet you didn’t know you comment was going to get you slapped in the mouth. Let any of us find out who you are. And if you got problems my full name is right here and I’m not hard to track down!

  19. Tim Taylor Avatar
    Tim Taylor

    Yeah but I bet you didn’t know you comment was going to get you slapped in the mouth. Let any of us find out who you are. And if you got problems my full name is right here and I’m not hard to track down!

  20. Tim Taylor Avatar
    Tim Taylor

    Yeah but I bet you didn’t know you comment was going to get you slapped in the mouth. Let any of us find out who you are. And if you got problems my full name is right here and I’m not hard to track down!

  21. AGROKID Avatar
    AGROKID

    Hey Oppositronic, was your mom aware of the risks of hiv before she gave head to her dealer for a crack rock? I hope the next wreck happens to you. 🙂

  22. AGROKID Avatar
    AGROKID

    Hey Oppositronic, was your mom aware of the risks of hiv before she gave head to her dealer for a crack rock? I hope the next wreck happens to you. 🙂

  23. AGROKID Avatar
    AGROKID

    Hey Oppositronic, was your mom aware of the risks of hiv before she gave head to her dealer for a crack rock? I hope the next wreck happens to you. 🙂

  24. AGROKID Avatar
    AGROKID

    Hey Oppositronic, was your mom aware of the risks of hiv before she gave head to her dealer for a crack rock? I hope the next wreck happens to you. 🙂

  25. lily Avatar
    lily

    wow…have a fucking heart oppositronic.

  26. lily Avatar
    lily

    wow…have a fucking heart oppositronic.

  27. lily Avatar
    lily

    wow…have a fucking heart oppositronic.

  28. lily Avatar
    lily

    wow…have a fucking heart oppositronic.

  29. anonymous Avatar
    anonymous

    These are two of the most awesome people I’ve ever had the pleasure of working with. Jill and Spliff are some of the most genuinely caring people I’ve ever met. Everyone mutual friend I’ve ever met has nothing but positive things to say about them. They in no way deserved any of this, and any support you can send will be appreciated to no end.

    @oppositronic: I’m sorry you have such a negative outlook on everything, I’ve never seen you respond to anything on here with a positive comment. That being said, if you ever find yourself in a position where you need a support system I hope you can find one, but negativity breed negativity. Karma is a bitch bro.

  30. anonymous Avatar
    anonymous

    These are two of the most awesome people I’ve ever had the pleasure of working with. Jill and Spliff are some of the most genuinely caring people I’ve ever met. Everyone mutual friend I’ve ever met has nothing but positive things to say about them. They in no way deserved any of this, and any support you can send will be appreciated to no end.

    @oppositronic: I’m sorry you have such a negative outlook on everything, I’ve never seen you respond to anything on here with a positive comment. That being said, if you ever find yourself in a position where you need a support system I hope you can find one, but negativity breed negativity. Karma is a bitch bro.

  31. anonymous Avatar
    anonymous

    These are two of the most awesome people I’ve ever had the pleasure of working with. Jill and Spliff are some of the most genuinely caring people I’ve ever met. Everyone mutual friend I’ve ever met has nothing but positive things to say about them. They in no way deserved any of this, and any support you can send will be appreciated to no end.

    @oppositronic: I’m sorry you have such a negative outlook on everything, I’ve never seen you respond to anything on here with a positive comment. That being said, if you ever find yourself in a position where you need a support system I hope you can find one, but negativity breed negativity. Karma is a bitch bro.

  32. anonymous Avatar
    anonymous

    These are two of the most awesome people I’ve ever had the pleasure of working with. Jill and Spliff are some of the most genuinely caring people I’ve ever met. Everyone mutual friend I’ve ever met has nothing but positive things to say about them. They in no way deserved any of this, and any support you can send will be appreciated to no end.

    @oppositronic: I’m sorry you have such a negative outlook on everything, I’ve never seen you respond to anything on here with a positive comment. That being said, if you ever find yourself in a position where you need a support system I hope you can find one, but negativity breed negativity. Karma is a bitch bro.

  33. Steffy Avatar
    Steffy

    Shit, Oppositronic. When something devastating like that happens to you or someone you love, we’ll remember that and say the same thing to you.. See how well it translates.. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

  34. Steffy Avatar
    Steffy

    Shit, Oppositronic. When something devastating like that happens to you or someone you love, we’ll remember that and say the same thing to you.. See how well it translates.. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

  35. Steffy Avatar
    Steffy

    Shit, Oppositronic. When something devastating like that happens to you or someone you love, we’ll remember that and say the same thing to you.. See how well it translates.. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

  36. Steffy Avatar
    Steffy

    Shit, Oppositronic. When something devastating like that happens to you or someone you love, we’ll remember that and say the same thing to you.. See how well it translates.. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

  37. kaspa Avatar
    kaspa

    yo on the real bro what are you ?who are you?and what you dont have a heart? that man had done more for the suspensions comunity then you know.instead of keeping bad karma in your head and on you tounge try my dick its a much better fit. thats my brother and sis you see in that pic homie so have a fucking heart asshole!!!

  38. kaspa Avatar
    kaspa

    yo on the real bro what are you ?who are you?and what you dont have a heart? that man had done more for the suspensions comunity then you know.instead of keeping bad karma in your head and on you tounge try my dick its a much better fit. thats my brother and sis you see in that pic homie so have a fucking heart asshole!!!

  39. kaspa Avatar
    kaspa

    yo on the real bro what are you ?who are you?and what you dont have a heart? that man had done more for the suspensions comunity then you know.instead of keeping bad karma in your head and on you tounge try my dick its a much better fit. thats my brother and sis you see in that pic homie so have a fucking heart asshole!!!

  40. kaspa Avatar
    kaspa

    yo on the real bro what are you ?who are you?and what you dont have a heart? that man had done more for the suspensions comunity then you know.instead of keeping bad karma in your head and on you tounge try my dick its a much better fit. thats my brother and sis you see in that pic homie so have a fucking heart asshole!!!

  41. ghostshadow Avatar

    I don’t know if this has been an option or not, but might look into http://pledgie.com/ – I have raised money through there before.

    I hope they are able to get back to NY. Fucking tragic.

  42. ghostshadow Avatar

    I don’t know if this has been an option or not, but might look into http://pledgie.com/ – I have raised money through there before.

    I hope they are able to get back to NY. Fucking tragic.

  43. ghostshadow Avatar

    I don’t know if this has been an option or not, but might look into http://pledgie.com/ – I have raised money through there before.

    I hope they are able to get back to NY. Fucking tragic.

  44. ghostshadow Avatar

    I don’t know if this has been an option or not, but might look into http://pledgie.com/ – I have raised money through there before.

    I hope they are able to get back to NY. Fucking tragic.

  45. Cucuy Avatar
    Cucuy

    I donated what I could, but I was also wondering if there was a donation page to set oppositronic on fire, or if I should start one.

  46. Cucuy Avatar
    Cucuy

    I donated what I could, but I was also wondering if there was a donation page to set oppositronic on fire, or if I should start one.

  47. Cucuy Avatar
    Cucuy

    I donated what I could, but I was also wondering if there was a donation page to set oppositronic on fire, or if I should start one.

  48. Cucuy Avatar
    Cucuy

    I donated what I could, but I was also wondering if there was a donation page to set oppositronic on fire, or if I should start one.

  49. Andrew Avatar
    Andrew

    Fuck if I could afford it, I would gladly double any funds raised for the set Oppositronic on fire fund back to the Spliff fund! What a fucking asshole! My regards to Spliff and his family and friends! Stay strong and keep on fighting!

  50. Andrew Avatar
    Andrew

    Fuck if I could afford it, I would gladly double any funds raised for the set Oppositronic on fire fund back to the Spliff fund! What a fucking asshole! My regards to Spliff and his family and friends! Stay strong and keep on fighting!

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