Like Phil and his girlfriend Alie, they came to the agreement that if he ran every day she would draw every day. To see Alie’s commitment to drawing every day check out her blog, I Hate To Draw. To see Phil’s commitment to running, you will need to stalk the street’s of Toronto one morning and look for Phil yourself (feel free to snap pictures and email them to me).
Another, and equally effective, way for a couple to work together is with a ball gag. One person speaks, the other submits. Makes perfect sense to me.
This tattoo by Alie sums it up best with the Latin phrase in the banner that translates to “Silence Implies Consent”.
For a few other pictures of Alie’s work, as well as contact info for her keep on keeping on.
Alie can be found tattooing at TCB Tattoo in Toronto, call (416) 203-1615 to book an appointment.
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I didn’t take it as glorifying legitimate rape or sexual assault in the slightest. As a member of the BDSM community I took it as much a “glorified rape” as rape play and various forms of roleplay surrounding the tongue in cheek concepts of submission and consent. If I find sexual pleasure from engaging in these behaviors, and choose to represent that on my body with ink as a large part of my sexual lifestyle, that is really no one else’s place to judge. As usual, members in the supposedly open-minded mod community condemn the tattoo before even asking for more information or opening a dialogue. To say that this tattoo is disgusting and inappropriate communicates that this fetish and lifestyle as a whole are disgusting and inappropriate. Yes, inherent in BDSM submission is consent, but when the fetish revolves around the concept of giving up control to someone you trust then you open the door for tongue in cheek references to having no control at all. Open your minds before you open your mouths, jesus.
Let me first say that I’m a big fan of kink and have done lots of D/s play myself. Mostly on the submissive side, honestly. And yes, rape play has been a part of that. For me, that was incredibly hot. Gagging, bondage, the whole nine yards.
Given all of that, this tattoo seriously disturbs me.
What would the reaction be if someone posted a tattoo glorifying pedophilia? Age and consent play is a pretty widely accepted part of kink and (again) can be really hot. But does that mean that even jokingly suggesting that raping small children is okay? Personally, I would say “hell no!”
I would love for the BDSM community to find wider acceptance because I think a lot more people could be exploring “taboo” sexual preferences instead of repressing them. At the same time, I know how sexual assault and rape can destroy a person’s life. I think that the way for the BDSM community to find that acceptance is to be clear that D/s play isn’t rape. Because it isn’t. Ask anyone: being raped isn’t hot. Engaging in consensual rape play can be really hot. Blurring the line between the two is harmful to nearly everyone.
To sum up:
Being that girl on the tattoo with my lover standing over me? A fantastic Friday night.
Being that girl on the tattoo with a stranger threatening me with a gun (or even with a new lover who doesn’t have my consent)? A life-destroying event.
Acting like the difference between the two doesn’t need to be addressed? Harmful to both the BDSM community and anyone who has the possibility of being sexually assaulted.
Let me first say that I’m a big fan of kink and have done lots of D/s play myself. Mostly on the submissive side, honestly. And yes, rape play has been a part of that. For me, that was incredibly hot. Gagging, bondage, the whole nine yards.
Given all of that, this tattoo seriously disturbs me.
What would the reaction be if someone posted a tattoo glorifying pedophilia? Age and consent play is a pretty widely accepted part of kink and (again) can be really hot. But does that mean that even jokingly suggesting that raping small children is okay? Personally, I would say “hell no!”
I would love for the BDSM community to find wider acceptance because I think a lot more people could be exploring “taboo” sexual preferences instead of repressing them. At the same time, I know how sexual assault and rape can destroy a person’s life. I think that the way for the BDSM community to find that acceptance is to be clear that D/s play isn’t rape. Because it isn’t. Ask anyone: being raped isn’t hot. Engaging in consensual rape play can be really hot. Blurring the line between the two is harmful to nearly everyone.
To sum up:
Being that girl on the tattoo with my lover standing over me? A fantastic Friday night.
Being that girl on the tattoo with a stranger threatening me with a gun (or even with a new lover who doesn’t have my consent)? A life-destroying event.
Acting like the difference between the two doesn’t need to be addressed? Harmful to both the BDSM community and anyone who has the possibility of being sexually assaulted.
Let me first say that I’m a big fan of kink and have done lots of D/s play myself. Mostly on the submissive side, honestly. And yes, rape play has been a part of that. For me, that was incredibly hot. Gagging, bondage, the whole nine yards.
Given all of that, this tattoo seriously disturbs me.
What would the reaction be if someone posted a tattoo glorifying pedophilia? Age and consent play is a pretty widely accepted part of kink and (again) can be really hot. But does that mean that even jokingly suggesting that raping small children is okay? Personally, I would say “hell no!”
I would love for the BDSM community to find wider acceptance because I think a lot more people could be exploring “taboo” sexual preferences instead of repressing them. At the same time, I know how sexual assault and rape can destroy a person’s life. I think that the way for the BDSM community to find that acceptance is to be clear that D/s play isn’t rape. Because it isn’t. Ask anyone: being raped isn’t hot. Engaging in consensual rape play can be really hot. Blurring the line between the two is harmful to nearly everyone.
To sum up:
Being that girl on the tattoo with my lover standing over me? A fantastic Friday night.
Being that girl on the tattoo with a stranger threatening me with a gun (or even with a new lover who doesn’t have my consent)? A life-destroying event.
Acting like the difference between the two doesn’t need to be addressed? Harmful to both the BDSM community and anyone who has the possibility of being sexually assaulted.
It’s crazy to read all the commments about the consent tattoo. I guess the wearer of the tattoo did have sexual implications with it, but I totally didn’t even go there when I saw it. I thought of it as a more politically based tattoo and I really liked the message I got when I saw it. I saw it being more of a ‘if we don’t stand up for ourselves, then we’re consenting to getting fucked’. That could mean any number of things, I took as more of a political message…even if that wasn’t the intent of the wearer, I guess it’s pretty cool it could be viewed that way, as I think that’s a more positive and inspiring message…
It’s crazy to read all the commments about the consent tattoo. I guess the wearer of the tattoo did have sexual implications with it, but I totally didn’t even go there when I saw it. I thought of it as a more politically based tattoo and I really liked the message I got when I saw it. I saw it being more of a ‘if we don’t stand up for ourselves, then we’re consenting to getting fucked’. That could mean any number of things, I took as more of a political message…even if that wasn’t the intent of the wearer, I guess it’s pretty cool it could be viewed that way, as I think that’s a more positive and inspiring message…
It’s crazy to read all the commments about the consent tattoo. I guess the wearer of the tattoo did have sexual implications with it, but I totally didn’t even go there when I saw it. I thought of it as a more politically based tattoo and I really liked the message I got when I saw it. I saw it being more of a ‘if we don’t stand up for ourselves, then we’re consenting to getting fucked’. That could mean any number of things, I took as more of a political message…even if that wasn’t the intent of the wearer, I guess it’s pretty cool it could be viewed that way, as I think that’s a more positive and inspiring message…
I was raped by the wearer of this tattoo. I’ve haven’t been able to get the image of poppy bombs out of my head ever since that night….
…oh, you guys were talking about the Silence Implies Consent tattoo? My bad. Yeah, that guy must be a huge douchebag for getting a Latin legal term tattooed on him (or her!). I mean, Latin? Dude needs to learn how to speak American! Latin offends me.
blabityblah
/troll
I was raped by the wearer of this tattoo. I’ve haven’t been able to get the image of poppy bombs out of my head ever since that night….
…oh, you guys were talking about the Silence Implies Consent tattoo? My bad. Yeah, that guy must be a huge douchebag for getting a Latin legal term tattooed on him (or her!). I mean, Latin? Dude needs to learn how to speak American! Latin offends me.
blabityblah
/troll
I was raped by the wearer of this tattoo. I’ve haven’t been able to get the image of poppy bombs out of my head ever since that night….
…oh, you guys were talking about the Silence Implies Consent tattoo? My bad. Yeah, that guy must be a huge douchebag for getting a Latin legal term tattooed on him (or her!). I mean, Latin? Dude needs to learn how to speak American! Latin offends me.
blabityblah
/troll