A black-and-white photo of a person mid-air in a Superman-style body suspension pose, supported by multiple hooks in their back and legs, smiling joyfully toward the camera. They are suspended horizontally in a large indoor space with high ceilings and visible rigging. A group of onlookers—some seated, some standing—watch with expressions of admiration, amusement, and support. The atmosphere is lively and communal, capturing a moment of shared experience and transformation.

BDSM Slave project

Lynn (a BDSM slave) came in today asking for something a bit more unique. She was impressed by the 10g horizontal hood I had done on her last year and wanted to get something a bit more interesting for her master.

She mentioned to me that she wanted to get her outer labia pierced so I suggested two 10g curved titanium barbells with 7/32″ slave ring bead ends. We could then attach four CBR’s to it while it healed. Then she could either weight them or remove them and slide a 1&1/4″ curved barbell through both forming the beginning of a chastity. If she then felt the healing process went well and the jewelry felt good when healed we could continue the project downward forming a complete chastity. She agreed and was so happy with the result when I’d finished she jumped up and gave me a big hug! I had also allowed her master to watch the procedure which I rarely do but I was glad I did.

He complimented me the entire time and was surprisingly nice to Lynn.

Lots of love,

Lane

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Comments

186 responses to “BDSM Slave project”

  1. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Why was it surprising that Lynn’s Master was nice to her?

  2. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Why was it surprising that Lynn’s Master was nice to her?

  3. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Why was it surprising that Lynn’s Master was nice to her?

  4. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Why was it surprising that Lynn’s Master was nice to her?

  5. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Why was it surprising that Lynn’s Master was nice to her?

  6. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Why was it surprising that Lynn’s Master was nice to her?

  7. PirateNwmn Avatar
    PirateNwmn

    Coming from someone who knows very little about BDSM, and is therefore going mostly on stereotypes (for want of a better word), I would assume it’s because the “master” is usually controlling and tortuous, and the “slave” is way submissive. So maybe people expect these roles to go outside “the bedroom” as well.

    But, like I said. I don’t really know what I’m talking about.

  8. PirateNwmn Avatar
    PirateNwmn

    Coming from someone who knows very little about BDSM, and is therefore going mostly on stereotypes (for want of a better word), I would assume it’s because the “master” is usually controlling and tortuous, and the “slave” is way submissive. So maybe people expect these roles to go outside “the bedroom” as well.

    But, like I said. I don’t really know what I’m talking about.

  9. PirateNwmn Avatar
    PirateNwmn

    Coming from someone who knows very little about BDSM, and is therefore going mostly on stereotypes (for want of a better word), I would assume it’s because the “master” is usually controlling and tortuous, and the “slave” is way submissive. So maybe people expect these roles to go outside “the bedroom” as well.

    But, like I said. I don’t really know what I’m talking about.

  10. PirateNwmn Avatar
    PirateNwmn

    Coming from someone who knows very little about BDSM, and is therefore going mostly on stereotypes (for want of a better word), I would assume it’s because the “master” is usually controlling and tortuous, and the “slave” is way submissive. So maybe people expect these roles to go outside “the bedroom” as well.

    But, like I said. I don’t really know what I’m talking about.

  11. PirateNwmn Avatar
    PirateNwmn

    Coming from someone who knows very little about BDSM, and is therefore going mostly on stereotypes (for want of a better word), I would assume it’s because the “master” is usually controlling and tortuous, and the “slave” is way submissive. So maybe people expect these roles to go outside “the bedroom” as well.

    But, like I said. I don’t really know what I’m talking about.

  12. PirateNwmn Avatar
    PirateNwmn

    Coming from someone who knows very little about BDSM, and is therefore going mostly on stereotypes (for want of a better word), I would assume it’s because the “master” is usually controlling and tortuous, and the “slave” is way submissive. So maybe people expect these roles to go outside “the bedroom” as well.

    But, like I said. I don’t really know what I’m talking about.

  13. melsgam Avatar

    Aren’t their some BSDM participants who do carry it on outside the bedroom though?

  14. melsgam Avatar

    Aren’t their some BSDM participants who do carry it on outside the bedroom though?

  15. melsgam Avatar

    Aren’t their some BSDM participants who do carry it on outside the bedroom though?

  16. melsgam Avatar

    Aren’t their some BSDM participants who do carry it on outside the bedroom though?

  17. melsgam Avatar

    Aren’t their some BSDM participants who do carry it on outside the bedroom though?

  18. melsgam Avatar

    Aren’t their some BSDM participants who do carry it on outside the bedroom though?

  19. echo Avatar
    echo

    of course there are, its a way of life, however their outside relationship need not equate to their inside one.

    that is a wicked awesome piercing too 🙂

  20. echo Avatar
    echo

    of course there are, its a way of life, however their outside relationship need not equate to their inside one.

    that is a wicked awesome piercing too 🙂

  21. echo Avatar
    echo

    of course there are, its a way of life, however their outside relationship need not equate to their inside one.

    that is a wicked awesome piercing too 🙂

  22. echo Avatar
    echo

    of course there are, its a way of life, however their outside relationship need not equate to their inside one.

    that is a wicked awesome piercing too 🙂

  23. echo Avatar
    echo

    of course there are, its a way of life, however their outside relationship need not equate to their inside one.

    that is a wicked awesome piercing too 🙂

  24. echo Avatar
    echo

    of course there are, its a way of life, however their outside relationship need not equate to their inside one.

    that is a wicked awesome piercing too 🙂

  25. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Pirate:

    I’m sure some people *do* want their steady power exchanges to be that way, and, well: bless. But in my own experience and from what I’ve observed being friends with many people who have or are interested in this style of relationship, relationships don’t survive unless there’s something more than *just* strong roles.

    This may not be true of everybody, and I may just know particularly gentle Masters… but I really can’t imagine even *wanting* to own someone I didn’t feel warmly toward. I can’t even picture in my head that a slave of mine would do something as intense as this project and I’d not be friendly, loving, invested, proud…

    so it just struck me as odd. But, well: different folks lead different lives, really.

  26. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Pirate:

    I’m sure some people *do* want their steady power exchanges to be that way, and, well: bless. But in my own experience and from what I’ve observed being friends with many people who have or are interested in this style of relationship, relationships don’t survive unless there’s something more than *just* strong roles.

    This may not be true of everybody, and I may just know particularly gentle Masters… but I really can’t imagine even *wanting* to own someone I didn’t feel warmly toward. I can’t even picture in my head that a slave of mine would do something as intense as this project and I’d not be friendly, loving, invested, proud…

    so it just struck me as odd. But, well: different folks lead different lives, really.

  27. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Pirate:

    I’m sure some people *do* want their steady power exchanges to be that way, and, well: bless. But in my own experience and from what I’ve observed being friends with many people who have or are interested in this style of relationship, relationships don’t survive unless there’s something more than *just* strong roles.

    This may not be true of everybody, and I may just know particularly gentle Masters… but I really can’t imagine even *wanting* to own someone I didn’t feel warmly toward. I can’t even picture in my head that a slave of mine would do something as intense as this project and I’d not be friendly, loving, invested, proud…

    so it just struck me as odd. But, well: different folks lead different lives, really.

  28. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Pirate:

    I’m sure some people *do* want their steady power exchanges to be that way, and, well: bless. But in my own experience and from what I’ve observed being friends with many people who have or are interested in this style of relationship, relationships don’t survive unless there’s something more than *just* strong roles.

    This may not be true of everybody, and I may just know particularly gentle Masters… but I really can’t imagine even *wanting* to own someone I didn’t feel warmly toward. I can’t even picture in my head that a slave of mine would do something as intense as this project and I’d not be friendly, loving, invested, proud…

    so it just struck me as odd. But, well: different folks lead different lives, really.

  29. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Pirate:

    I’m sure some people *do* want their steady power exchanges to be that way, and, well: bless. But in my own experience and from what I’ve observed being friends with many people who have or are interested in this style of relationship, relationships don’t survive unless there’s something more than *just* strong roles.

    This may not be true of everybody, and I may just know particularly gentle Masters… but I really can’t imagine even *wanting* to own someone I didn’t feel warmly toward. I can’t even picture in my head that a slave of mine would do something as intense as this project and I’d not be friendly, loving, invested, proud…

    so it just struck me as odd. But, well: different folks lead different lives, really.

  30. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Pirate:

    I’m sure some people *do* want their steady power exchanges to be that way, and, well: bless. But in my own experience and from what I’ve observed being friends with many people who have or are interested in this style of relationship, relationships don’t survive unless there’s something more than *just* strong roles.

    This may not be true of everybody, and I may just know particularly gentle Masters… but I really can’t imagine even *wanting* to own someone I didn’t feel warmly toward. I can’t even picture in my head that a slave of mine would do something as intense as this project and I’d not be friendly, loving, invested, proud…

    so it just struck me as odd. But, well: different folks lead different lives, really.

  31. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Regardless though, this entry makes both of them sound like big sweeties. Which makes me happy.

  32. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Regardless though, this entry makes both of them sound like big sweeties. Which makes me happy.

  33. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Regardless though, this entry makes both of them sound like big sweeties. Which makes me happy.

  34. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Regardless though, this entry makes both of them sound like big sweeties. Which makes me happy.

  35. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Regardless though, this entry makes both of them sound like big sweeties. Which makes me happy.

  36. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    Regardless though, this entry makes both of them sound like big sweeties. Which makes me happy.

  37. celestialbodies_101 Avatar
    celestialbodies_101

    I love that, it looks very good.

  38. celestialbodies_101 Avatar
    celestialbodies_101

    I love that, it looks very good.

  39. celestialbodies_101 Avatar
    celestialbodies_101

    I love that, it looks very good.

  40. celestialbodies_101 Avatar
    celestialbodies_101

    I love that, it looks very good.

  41. celestialbodies_101 Avatar
    celestialbodies_101

    I love that, it looks very good.

  42. celestialbodies_101 Avatar
    celestialbodies_101

    I love that, it looks very good.

  43. Nika Avatar
    Nika

    Melsgam: Yes, there are some who do 24/7 dominance/submission, but from what I’ve seen, they tend to keep it fairly subtle in public unless they’re around like-minded people.

    Masters that I’ve spoken with (including my own) generally treasure their submissives and would never intentionally harm them. Like TrinityVA said, why shouldn’t Lynn’s Master be nice to her? You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Being degraded and humiliated (outside of previously negotiated limits) isn’t BDSM, it’s abuse. BDSM should be done because both partners enjoy it, not because one partner wants to harm the other.
    Just to give you some perspective, my boyfriend is dominant. I’m submissive. Outside of the bedroom, we’re equal partners. In the bedroom, however, it gets rather kinky. ^_^

  44. Nika Avatar
    Nika

    Melsgam: Yes, there are some who do 24/7 dominance/submission, but from what I’ve seen, they tend to keep it fairly subtle in public unless they’re around like-minded people.

    Masters that I’ve spoken with (including my own) generally treasure their submissives and would never intentionally harm them. Like TrinityVA said, why shouldn’t Lynn’s Master be nice to her? You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Being degraded and humiliated (outside of previously negotiated limits) isn’t BDSM, it’s abuse. BDSM should be done because both partners enjoy it, not because one partner wants to harm the other.
    Just to give you some perspective, my boyfriend is dominant. I’m submissive. Outside of the bedroom, we’re equal partners. In the bedroom, however, it gets rather kinky. ^_^

  45. Nika Avatar
    Nika

    Melsgam: Yes, there are some who do 24/7 dominance/submission, but from what I’ve seen, they tend to keep it fairly subtle in public unless they’re around like-minded people.

    Masters that I’ve spoken with (including my own) generally treasure their submissives and would never intentionally harm them. Like TrinityVA said, why shouldn’t Lynn’s Master be nice to her? You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Being degraded and humiliated (outside of previously negotiated limits) isn’t BDSM, it’s abuse. BDSM should be done because both partners enjoy it, not because one partner wants to harm the other.
    Just to give you some perspective, my boyfriend is dominant. I’m submissive. Outside of the bedroom, we’re equal partners. In the bedroom, however, it gets rather kinky. ^_^

  46. Nika Avatar
    Nika

    Melsgam: Yes, there are some who do 24/7 dominance/submission, but from what I’ve seen, they tend to keep it fairly subtle in public unless they’re around like-minded people.

    Masters that I’ve spoken with (including my own) generally treasure their submissives and would never intentionally harm them. Like TrinityVA said, why shouldn’t Lynn’s Master be nice to her? You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Being degraded and humiliated (outside of previously negotiated limits) isn’t BDSM, it’s abuse. BDSM should be done because both partners enjoy it, not because one partner wants to harm the other.
    Just to give you some perspective, my boyfriend is dominant. I’m submissive. Outside of the bedroom, we’re equal partners. In the bedroom, however, it gets rather kinky. ^_^

  47. Nika Avatar
    Nika

    Melsgam: Yes, there are some who do 24/7 dominance/submission, but from what I’ve seen, they tend to keep it fairly subtle in public unless they’re around like-minded people.

    Masters that I’ve spoken with (including my own) generally treasure their submissives and would never intentionally harm them. Like TrinityVA said, why shouldn’t Lynn’s Master be nice to her? You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Being degraded and humiliated (outside of previously negotiated limits) isn’t BDSM, it’s abuse. BDSM should be done because both partners enjoy it, not because one partner wants to harm the other.
    Just to give you some perspective, my boyfriend is dominant. I’m submissive. Outside of the bedroom, we’re equal partners. In the bedroom, however, it gets rather kinky. ^_^

  48. Nika Avatar
    Nika

    Melsgam: Yes, there are some who do 24/7 dominance/submission, but from what I’ve seen, they tend to keep it fairly subtle in public unless they’re around like-minded people.

    Masters that I’ve spoken with (including my own) generally treasure their submissives and would never intentionally harm them. Like TrinityVA said, why shouldn’t Lynn’s Master be nice to her? You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Being degraded and humiliated (outside of previously negotiated limits) isn’t BDSM, it’s abuse. BDSM should be done because both partners enjoy it, not because one partner wants to harm the other.
    Just to give you some perspective, my boyfriend is dominant. I’m submissive. Outside of the bedroom, we’re equal partners. In the bedroom, however, it gets rather kinky. ^_^

  49. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    “You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.”

    Exactly, Nika. The one time I tried to date someone who wanted a harsh dominant it really didn’t work. That’s just not me.

    Not that I don’t wish him the best with someone who better suits him, but… there’s a difference between enjoying being play-mean in scenes and acting that way all the time. The latter is something I really can’t do. I can be dominant all the time, in the sense that it’s part of my personality and I’m me. But to always act like I act for fun… nah, doesn’t work for me.

  50. TrinityVA Avatar
    TrinityVA

    “You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.”

    Exactly, Nika. The one time I tried to date someone who wanted a harsh dominant it really didn’t work. That’s just not me.

    Not that I don’t wish him the best with someone who better suits him, but… there’s a difference between enjoying being play-mean in scenes and acting that way all the time. The latter is something I really can’t do. I can be dominant all the time, in the sense that it’s part of my personality and I’m me. But to always act like I act for fun… nah, doesn’t work for me.

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