A black-and-white photo of a person mid-air in a Superman-style body suspension pose, supported by multiple hooks in their back and legs, smiling joyfully toward the camera. They are suspended horizontally in a large indoor space with high ceilings and visible rigging. A group of onlookers—some seated, some standing—watch with expressions of admiration, amusement, and support. The atmosphere is lively and communal, capturing a moment of shared experience and transformation.

Fil Thirteen, 1974-2007

filthirteen.jpgiam/www

Services will be:
   Saturday, March 10th
Held at:
   St. Joe’s
   606 Shore Rd.
   Somers Point, NJ 08244
   9:30 – 11:30 :: Viewing
   12:00 :: Mass

In lieu of flowers, the family has set up a trust fund for his daughter Marla as follows: Donations to be made to Marla Defeo-Juliano education fund c/o Patricia Ferry Ocean City Home Bank 6302 Ventnor NJ 8406.

Comments

57 responses to “Fil Thirteen, 1974-2007”

  1. zoepit Avatar

    I didn’t knew him,but i liked his pic because he looked a bit like my husband,who was an expressive “punk”-painter and commited suicide this year.And then,i read,this fellow is also already dead!So SAD this!But be sure:these people live 4EVER!!!!They are UNDEAD!YEAH!

  2. Bradly Avatar
    Bradly

    you guys knew him now, but you didn’t know him when. I loved my cousin – and I was sad and now I am mad. comment 46 was uncalled for, his death was no one’s business but ours. I just want peace to find him. I love you Philip. And I miss you –

    Posted by me

    Plz dont talk trash if his death was no ones business but your own then why the obituary and all the guest books, If he shot himself suicide is a real danger to people everywhere and hushing it up like aid’s dosnt help solve anything. After reading everything I had assumed he died of a drug overdose.Maybe if people dealt with real life feelings there would be more real life lived.~_0
    I truly hope that maybe u and the rest of his family have a total 180 deg turn around on how you want to look at it. After reading how big and strongs and dedicated man he was and to still have to deal with feelings that brought him to that point … then maybe his memories could be used for inspiration for those alive dealing and living with the same feelings EXAMPLE Shannon here talks about himself having sucidal feelings which I think helps brings those feelings out of the closset which is much better than ignoring them and putting them away in a coffin.Life can be tuff can it not ?

  3. Bradly Avatar
    Bradly

    P.P.s I know that Phil could take a joke(just dont pass out in the shop) BUT can U?

  4. Mom Juliano Avatar
    Mom Juliano

    The pain of losing our son is still so fresh and raw…yes, I guess he did take his own life but only after terrible things were said to him… god awful wicked things that invaded his subconscious, and tore his soul apart leaving him distraught in agony,with the terrorizing fear of lies ripping his daughter away from him and with her… his whole life…
    May god forgive that one because I don’t know if I ever can.
    Rest in peace, my son…Marla reached her hand way up into the air and said she gave you a Father’s Day card on your cloud…We all love and miss you so… The world is just not as lively a place without you in it…I can’t see through my tears but I I just had to respond…
    As for the guest book on the Press obit page that you can reach from Filthirteen.com… if you knew our son, please share a story or two …the page is up til next April and we will print a copy for Marla at that time.. it may help her to know how people felt about her Daddy… our love to all

  5. tredinertok Avatar

    Hello

    Very interesting information! Thanks!

    G’night

  6. STAFF SERGEANT BRIAN DEAN Avatar

    I AM CRUSHED!!!!!! I was injured very bad in Iraq and upon returning and retiring from the injuries, I learned of Phil’s death. Mrs. Juliano, you remember Phil and I were best friends in Jr. High, and in high school and I am VERY sorry for being out of touch with him for the past 10 years. The army kinda does that to you. I only have 1 tatoo on my body, it was done for me in 1996. It was done by your son. The tatoo was done in memory of my team I lost in Bosnia and when I was shot the first time. Now, I guess it has two…..Damn, I miss you Phil. I am so sorry I wasn’t there for you.

  7. Heather Avatar
    Heather

    Mrs Juliano your son was a fabulous human being. Larger than life he made such an impression on all who knew him. I met him when I was only 15. From the first time I saw him I wanted to be around him constantly. He just had this energy. He was so friendly. I cant believe he’s gone. I am truly so very sorry for your loss.

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