A black-and-white photo of a person mid-air in a Superman-style body suspension pose, supported by multiple hooks in their back and legs, smiling joyfully toward the camera. They are suspended horizontally in a large indoor space with high ceilings and visible rigging. A group of onlookers—some seated, some standing—watch with expressions of admiration, amusement, and support. The atmosphere is lively and communal, capturing a moment of shared experience and transformation.

Pulling as a part of growing up

I got this nice email from Havve from Pain Solution;

Hi guys!

My oldest son, Kai, who’s turning 15 in three months, did his first pulling yesterday. His been eager to do a suspension for about a year, after some consideration I decided to let him try a pulling. He proved to be brave and made both me and his mom proud!

Havve/bleeding

Comments

48 responses to “Pulling as a part of growing up”

  1. possessed Avatar

    That’s lovely. How great to have parents who share your love of body modification and support what you want to do. My parents went mental when I got my vertical labret; if I broached the idea of a pulling or suspension I think they might have me committed.

  2. Vanessavanessa Avatar
    Vanessavanessa

    that’s really wonderful.

  3. pimhead-jr Avatar
    pimhead-jr

    thads so cool
    lucky dude

  4. Annab Avatar
    Annab

    Look at that wonderful smile 🙂

  5. saskia Avatar
    saskia

    o m man bare hadde sånne foreldre

    …herlig!

  6. lilish Avatar
    lilish

    What a bonding experience! It’s great to see parents supporting thier kids in body modification in a responsible way.

  7. lindsey Avatar
    lindsey

    hooray for family bonding time!!!

  8. b0lter Avatar
    b0lter

    wish i had parents like him =D

  9. J Avatar
    J

    I wonder if that is his father in the backround? Even if it is’nt it is wonderful to see a family doing something like this. Mostly my mom just cries when she sees my lobes, they are kind of mangled though…

  10. *mari-lou* Avatar
    *mari-lou*

    Yes, thats him. Beautiful picture:)

  11. skeleton_closet Avatar

    In a world where people regularly pop out kids for no apparent reason, it’s great to see a trusting father/son relationship like that to counter them.
    The son looks like an elf. Is it really pervy to say he’ll be gorgeous when he’s older? (I’m only 18!!)

  12. Amy Avatar
    Amy

    It’s really great to hear about people having positive experiences like this. It’s a great picture too.

  13. EastWind Avatar
    EastWind

    That’s quite a lot of maturity and trust for a parent and child to have to turn an experience like this into something so positive. I’m quite sure that if I had told my own parents at 15 that I wanted to do a body suspension, I would have been locked up.

  14. psychonauts unite! Avatar
    psychonauts unite!

    når jeg blir stor, skal jeg også bli en så grei forelder.

  15. Frester Avatar

    Damn I’m jealous. Whenever I get something done my mom tries to make me promise it’s the last one.

  16. J Avatar
    J

    I just noticed the guy in the backround has a tattoo that looks like it is the flame thrower power up from contra, anyone else notice? kind of not on topic but still contra rules

  17. ÈMþRê§§ Avatar
    ÈMþRê§§

    He’s got some pretty intense mods for a 15 year old. Im kinda old fashioned I would make my son wait until hes 18.

  18. namesofthedead Avatar

    Of the 2 persons in that picture one suposed to be the dad the other one being the son…….
    guess who is in the background?
    the dad!!!
    Like faher like son:) håvve sould be a very happy dad

  19. paramount fidelity Avatar
    paramount fidelity

    Ditto 3. That’s a lucky dude

  20. Prim8 Avatar
    Prim8

    Be my parents!

  21. veronica Avatar

    i think that’s great & Kai must be super happy to have accepting parents 🙂

  22. SARAHPANIC Avatar

    i’m jealous that his parents are so accepting i wish my mom would be more accepting of my wants for body mods.

  23. Abby Avatar
    Abby

    awesome
    good to see not everyone thinks certain body mod experiences should be ONLY available to those 18 and over

  24. SnaiLuv Avatar

    #17: intense mods? all i see is a lip ring and a few earrings. although the flesh pull’s intense. but not permanent.

  25. Deleahrium Avatar
    Deleahrium

    Havve is beautiful. I’d love to pull with him!

  26. Chris Avatar
    Chris

    I love the fact that a dad and his son are this close, having done suspensions and pulls myself I know it’s quite an experience. I am curious however what might happen if it was discovered that Hevve did a pull with his son, it could be miscontrued as child abuse i’m sure by people who don’t necessarily understand it and cause alot of problems for him.

  27. Lilee Avatar
    Lilee

    Lucky! My mom was a nazi about mods, and anything to do with it. I started stretching my lobes when I was 15, and she freaked out about that. If I had asked about a suspension, I would most likely have been locked up. She did take me for my first tattoo though, when I was 17. But I had to nag her about it for about five years first.

  28. fantasien Avatar

    that’s so awesome, having experiences like that with your family would make the bonds so much stronger. i could never do something like that with my parents.

    props to dad!

  29. Halo Avatar
    Halo

    I like hearing about positive experiences between parents and their children. It’s not something I hear about very often.

  30. cas Avatar
    cas

    this is what i like to see happening to my family, much respect.

  31. T- Avatar
    T-

    I love this picture! Really what I’d love to have in my family.

  32. Em Avatar
    Em

    Is it really perverted to say that the son will be GORGEOUS when he’s older? (I’m only 18…)
    That aside, lovely picture.

  33. ephemeral Avatar
    ephemeral

    I love that all these comments about this picture are positive. Kai is lucky to have such a trusting relationship with his parents.

  34. Lil Miss Strange Avatar

    This a beautiful way to let your child be a part of what you love!

  35. Masticate Avatar

    Showed me this some years back and I would of put myself up for adoption to these guys ha

  36. Anthony Avatar

    I wish my father wasn’t a douche

  37. bethiesan Avatar
    bethiesan

    Thats so sweet

  38. entertained Avatar

    This is amazing. My dad near disowned me when I told him I was interested in suspension.

  39. wish_I_were_a_dragon... Avatar

    thats really awesome!

    my parents will hate me when I begin doing suspensions

  40. Spacy Avatar

    Thats such amazing family bonding 🙂

  41. iamHARDCORE Avatar

    Father like son….

  42. PiercedKurt Avatar
    PiercedKurt

    Lucky Kai, wish my folks were the more accepting of my tats and piercings…

  43. postlogic Avatar

    Man, Haave is such a good man. Great to see his son is growing up to one, too!

  44. anonymous Avatar
    anonymous

    ahhh, je dois voyager aux pays-bas!!

  45. WTF Avatar
    WTF

    what you cant see is the guy behind him with his cock out and the poor kid cant escape

  46. WTF Avatar
    WTF

    what you cant see is the guy behind him pulling the poor kid onto his cock.

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