Well, those are some explicit tattoos! Although I suppose it’s nothing you couldn’t find written on a t-shirt at Target.
UPDATE: For more information, here’s an interview with Michelle.
“Michelle, the pass around girl”
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430 responses to ““Michelle, the pass around girl””
Posting 197
I have tried no less then 20 different doctors and counselors. I have been medicated vis SSRI’s that are suposed to lower your libido. It did not even make a dent. I have been in Del Amo hospital in Torrance, CA for a month to deal with addictions. Sadly, they could not treat me for exactaly for what I suffer for they lacked the staff and experience. I have tried residential treatment but since I lack a corresponding drug/booze addiction, they won’t treat me. Men have hundreds of sex addict options, women have next to none. The ones that do exist cost upwards of 45,000 bucks paid in advance. Who the fuck has that kind of money? I have even tried to get Dr. Phil and Dr. Keith Ablow to pay for it in trade for being on their shows. They were happy to have me on the show but shrank about the time paying for treatment came up. Both those shows air in November. I have left no stone unturned. Addiction is a mother fucker, trust me. If I was only addicted to drugs. Help would be no more then a phone call away. Of course, the DSM IV, the mental health guide book, does not even include sex addiction as a real illness. So, my health insurance does not have to pay for any treatment.
Michelle
powerlessness is a horrid thing. but the first step is to admit that is exactly what the problem is.
the tattoos are marvellous though. i hate the way the ‘moral majority’ always like to act superior on modblog.
I’d like to start this comment by saying “good for you” to Michelle.
A lot of comments have posted that you’re “obviously” this or that, but I like to think that if you’re obviously anything its a very strong and positive woman – for which I have a lot of respect.
And your comments on healthcare professionals ring true with a lot of what I’ve experienced. While not I think a sex addict, there is certainly never a momment of my waking life that I’m not thinking of or yearning for sex, but as a male to female transsexual I’ve certainly had to keep that quiet, as “women don’t think about sex all the time”…
I also suspect that doctors see sex addiction as less important, they figure you’re not drinking something that can impare judgement or kill you, you’re not injecting something that a slightly wrong dose puts you in a coma, you’re not spending tens of thausands of dollars a month (unless I guess you resort to prostitues…)… I think even gambling addiction is taken more seriously… and men being generally physically stronger they’d guess that male sex addicts will be more likely to force themselves on others… but like you said in your interview with Shannon, you’ve lost work and a relationship, so, it’s certainly not a harmless addiction.
A question though, is it the act of sex that you’re addicted to, or the getting off part? Or both…
I’d like to finish with appologising for my appauling typing, I’m tired and a little cold. I have much respect for anyone who has the guts to get something “outrageous” tattood, or cut, or pierced onto them. And I have little respect for anyone who is modded and has berated Michelle in anyway that EVER in thier life complains that someone had a go because of thier tattoos, or 1″+ nostril piercings, or sub-dermal implants – never ask people to accept who you are and what you do if you’re not willing to do that in return
Hi Michelle, (in response to 198)
From my own experience with SSRI medication for OCD, I have two remarks.
One: The drugs in this class are truly not equivalent to each other, and I had to try several similar SSRI drugs, at varying doses, before I found something that made me feel better (and not worse!).
Two: The lessening of OCD symptoms seemed to allow me to respond better to cognitive-behavioral therapy with counselors and psychologists. Honesty and communication was facilitated; I was more willing and able to consider and try their suggestions.
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I cannot remember feeling any changes in libido when I took these drugs. I wasn’t taking them for the purpose of changing libido, either, so I was not particularly paying attention to this aspect. I think this could be an additional benefit for sex addicts, but perhaps not of primary importance. I speculate this because if your sexual addiction stems in part from OCD or related disorders, you may find the greatest benefit of SSRI medications is to facilitate your recovery through programs like SA and counseling sessions., and to lessen the likelihood of both slipping and of feeling extremely depressed if you do slip.
They weren’t a cure-all for me; they just made me more open and willing and capable to work on my problems in therapy sessions. It was like being sick, and taking an OTC pain reliever. It will help you get up and go to work, even though it is still unpleasant; at least you’re not staying in bed all day in total agony, getting nothing done at all.
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Another thought I have is that I have read about psycotherapy sessions conducted with psychedelics like LSD, MDMA, and others, which helped seemingly incurable alcoholics find sobriety or at least some sanity that years of traditional routes utterly failed to provide.
Although an underground practice today (most reports are from the days when these substances were uncontrolled), there are psycotherapists who are willing to conduct such sessions with individuals who are thought may benefit. You just have to find them somehow.
This may in fact be a very bad idea for a number of people, for a number of reasons. And this of course is not at all the same as just taking these substances in a non-therapy setting. These are controlled therapy sessions, conducted by authentic and trained practitioners, which involve psychedelics to faciliate communication within the session, and insight into the nature of very stubborn addictions, depression, and similar disorders.
I just thought it worthy of mention since you are having so much trouble finding help with all the traditional routes. Good luck!
She can work with me if she wants 😉
After seeing entry #195, I did check out Michelle’s myspace blog, and I am sorry to say that all I can see is someone motivated by malice and spite, why try to ruin people you had sex with? It was consensual and both parties knew these guys were cheating on their spouses… why do they need to be punished anymore than Michelle?
sorry, it was #193
they still don’t classify sexual addiction as a illness?! ok,now i’m confused as to how psychiatrists and other mental health professionals have studied and classified excessive shopping as an illness needing treatment but,they just haven’t got around to classifying excessive/destructive sex as anything more than…nothing!
but,at the same time,i know some therapists who believe that the (destructive)act itself isn’t the problem;it’s the motivation behind it that needs to be treated.
Addiction is a crappy thing. How people deal with is it certainly an interesting study. I respect that Michelle has chosen to take it on in her own way.
However, if seeing these tattoos on herself everyday isn’t actually helping (I didn’t get that out of the interview), then what really is the end goal? If anything, the ink looks like reinforcement. Why not stuff like “You don’t need to fuck everyone” or “Sex with my wife fulfills me”? Reinforce some of the thoughts that might give a perspective that might help the4 addiction by putting in the forefront a positive set of thoughts.
It’s great you’re getting help and your partner must be amazingly understanding (though *if* she’s getting paid to have sex, what really is the difference?) to stay with you after all the cheating.
I just have to think there’s a more constructive and postive way to self-heal… but I’m not stupid – different people need to use different methods to get through the pain. I only hope your method doesn’t ruin your life as much as the addiction has.
It’s definately an illness. I like how she’s very up front and completely honest about it.
just to explain why i posted those links i found. it was because there seemed to be many assumptions about what may or may not have been motivating factors behind the tattoos since there was so much speculation going on in these comments and the wearer of the tattoos wasnt around to answer the questions. i myself was very curious as well, since part of me was repulsed by them but part of me thought they were a bold form of self-expression that should/could be applauded. i was not trying to be judgemental or an asshole or anything. just merely sharing what i found and giving my opinion. thats all. having said that, i hope that michelle can find the help that she is seeking. i would wish her nothing but the best in securing help for such an obviously harmful and misunderstood illness.
I’m going to go out on a limb here and suggest that it should likely be classified as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder rather than an addiction disorder. Most non-substance related “addictions” get classified this way. OCD is a mother too. It’s a very difficult disease to treat across the board and having sex is a much more difficult obsession to overcome than say hand washing.
As for whether Michelle’s sex is consensual, if she’s truly pathologically obsessed with sex then it is impossible for her to consent in the way that someone not obsessed could. Once the dominoes begin to fall, she can’t say no. Assuming this is actually the case, the bastards that fuck her look into her eyes begging them not to as her body and mind drive her to do something she wishes she could stop.
Having read through her blog now as well as the interview, the single criticism that I have of how she has approached her illness (and any of the 10s of professionals she’s seen should have started with this) is that she continues to surround herself with sexualized things from the adult industry to pursuing swinging and strip clubs on myspace. That’s a set-up for problems. Part of reining in OCD is behavioral and avoiding known triggers is part of that. Mind you, I’m not her doctor and not a psychiatrist but that’s my recollection of how this comes down.
I have some further thoughts on this as well, but I’d like to avoid making remote control diagnoses of people I’ve never met.
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If I had gotten a syringe and spoon tattooed on my neck because I was trying to deal with a heroin addiction, I’d bet that most people commenting on ModBlog wouldn’t offer to help me score some H. But when someone has a sexual addiction, it’s okay to make a veiled proposition? “She can work with me if she wants 😉” Maybe I don’t have a great sense of humor, but to me that seems like cracking a dead baby joke to someone that’s just miscarried.
I find the whole issue of addiction to be very troubling. People that have never had an addiction don’t seem to be able to understand. When someone compulsively overeats, most people say they should (in the immortal words of my roomate) just, “Put down the fucking fork”. For people that shop or gamble compulsively, the general attitude seems to be that they are lacking some kind of moral fibre or that they’ve caused their own problem. Drugs and alcohol get a little more sympathy, just because people have seen it more, but there’s still often an attitude that the people suffering from the addiction are at fault, or are flawed.
Moddoctor: I agree with you about avoidance of triggers. I am still working on an eating disorder, and part of the way I control it is by complete avoidance of foods and circumstances that set me up for problems.
It does seem like sex would be a bastard of an addiction to crack, since the sex drive is built into us biologically…
I think sexual addiction is really, really hard for most people to understand as a genuine problem… I think the average person perceives the notion of “more sex” or “more sex drive” in a partner a good thing and has trouble understanding that if the drive is too much, it can cause all sorts of problems as Michelle describes…
Shannon,
Yes, and there’s also the way a lot of at least the pornography addiction stuff is tied to the religious right. I know it’s made it hard for me, until things like this story humanized it for me, not to dismiss both porn addiction and sex addiction as some people trying to foist their sexual morality on the rest of us. (I remember, for example, looking at a sex addiction quiz and one of the questions on it being “Do you regularly engage in sadomasochism?” and thinking “These people clearly have an idea of what healthy sexuality is that I wouldn’t agree with.”)
I really like the two girls kissing chest piece.
“the body belongs to the soul that lives inside, and to noone else”.
I don’t like all of her tatoos but I certainly don’t think they look bad or are outrageous in some way.
It’s her choice, and I believe the least we can do is respect it.
I hope she’ll get through her addiction and I wish her the best 🙂
at first i passed judgement on these tattoos until i read the interview with her and it made sense. and truthfully- i believe you should be able to do whatever you want to your body, so let her embrace her sexual side and tell it to the world! Shes got gaul for doing so, power to her!
Dorothy: So do I, and I actually also especially like the crying blood, now that I know Michelle’s story.
Ahh, just looked again, and I’d somehow misinterpreted a red accent on a rosy cheek + red lipstick as a tear of blood. Ooops.
Regarding the ‘avoiding triggers’ thing – sounds like this woman would have to be locked up away from all human contact to avoid all triggers, which would be shitty, and make it rather difficult to earn a living. She said she’s had trouble holding down a job due to her condition; I imagine that the porn industry is one of the few that would have some compassion for her problem. And she’s trying to find healthy ways to express her urges through swingers clubs etc, which is just smart if you ask me. I mean, what, does she have to take a vow of celibacy for the rest of her life to ‘recover’? I think it’s great that she’s found tattoos to be a way to help her cope with her problem, and I wish her all the best in the process of her recovery.
She wasn’t kidding about being a sex addict. She has an ad on the w4w section of the denver craigslist and has a “pass around girl” yahoo group where she shares photos and sets up meets and greets. I hope she gets the help she needs…
#207, you are not funny. Understand?
Thanks for the explanation, Michelle – and everyone else, remember, we’re not so bad. Most people would continue blindly judging her after her problems were explained.
I have OCD. People think I’m just being awkward, or attention-seeking. Addictions and compulsions aren’t well understood, and it hurts.
I still have my doubts about the tattoos, but we now have the right to have doubts, as we’re informed.
whoops didn’t realize how many people already mentioned the website thing. A net savvy friend who read the interview sent me those two links and I thought some things she writes on them (esp the yahoo group) was interesting. but it was already mentioned elsewhere
I’m just wondering if after the interview, Shannon and her had sex. 🙂
im a feminist and totally support these tattoos! i think mainstream feminism is more filled with close-minded liberals that undermine radical feminist values – this woman should do whatever she wants with her body. my main concern is that she is treated with respct and that she respects herself! beautiful person, great ink. much love.
Far be it for me to point the finger and judge anyone… I understand the underlying message, and the purpose towards someone so marking their body. I think that alot of folks who look upon these tattoos simply can’t get past the negative vibe they prompt. Tattoos are often used to enpower us, in so many different ways: by labeling herself these things, by making physical these inherent testimonies to her self, she is seeking control over a thing that would doubtless overwhelm and consume her utterly. I am reminded, oddly enough, of the fat guy in the crowd who constantly makes jabs at himself before anyone else can take the shot: “Let me set my fat ass down here for a moment.” By taking the initiative with the declaration, he is in fact negating the sting of similar comments, or feelings, directed towards him… thus, enpowerment is gained. I did notice there was an e-mail address posted at the bottom of the interview: I have to wonder how many folks jumped on that and did the e-equivalent of, “a/s/l?” with the pass-around girl.
When i first saw the pictures and read some of the posts I didn’t pick up on the context of sexual addiction. The only thing I saw was how unfair the double standards are of men are studs/women are whores. Now after reading the interview, I think she’s very brave to talk about her addiction. Maybe by bringing this problem to public attention it might also help address the lack of treatment options for women, or help others who are dealing with the same thing. I’ve never given it much thought how disruptive and painful a sex addiction can be. I hope she gets help. The one thing that does irk me in her myspace blogs is her decision to name the families. I think about the kids and it’s not their fault that their dads are assholes. Anyway I wish her lots of luck with finding treatment and if the tattoos make her feel better then it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of them.
She is one of the most beautiful women i have ever seen in my life. I would marry her in a second, even if she did need to have sex with others.
She is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen.
In response to comment 52, Y’know here in Australia you only have to wear a short skirt, make-up, or forget to put on your hijab in the morning to be asking for rape and if you do, hey its your fault. It’s what one of the most prominent religious leaders has said and has stood by.
So when people start making these kind of comments, is it just a free-for-all thesedays?
Her interview….
https://www.bmezine.com/news/pubring/20061028.html
Yes, as modified people we shouldn’t say her choice to express her sex addiction threw tattoos was a bad idea. Yet, I think she should get help with her problem (the addiction). I don’t really understand why putting how she felt about herself; in a “negative” aspect seemed like a good idea, but we all heal in different ways.
I’d hit it
Holy crap that takes balls. Anyone who has experienced the pain of getting tattooed should know the commitment undertaken. Approve or disapprove, that’s a permanant commitment if I ever saw one.
Re: post 228:
Lets consider the logistics here. Melissa lives in Colorado, US. Shannon lives in Ontario, Canada. What are the odds that he would fly to Colorado for a relatively brief interview? Considerably more important, in the context of interviewing someone about their sexual addiction, what kind of person would you have to be to take advantage of their compulsion?
Joke or not, that seems like a hit a little south of the belt. I lost my sense of humor about addiction and compulsion issues after having some people tell me that it was all in my head and I could just stop if I wanted to, and other people telling me that I should pray and ask god to make everything okay.
I think she is an admirable woman. She is very genuin and open about her sexual drive and fantasies that nature granted her, which is common to us all, but for her a bit stronger than for most of us. Strong sexuality is however still such taboo issue, which brings her in embarrassing situations. I admire her courage to open up about this deeply personal feature.
The tattoos are clearly not meant to be offensive or degrading, but rather as a sexual tool or stimulus.
Sadly enough, even among tattooed people, who should understand the psychological impact of being degraded because of one’s personal features, like race, sexuality and tattoos, many people comment in a negative way.
Again, I admire her because of who and what she is and because of her courage to open up about this deeply personal feature.
Except that she is lying through her teeth, if we are to believe her own words on her blog(s). The scars are from a tummy tuck that she had on March 7th, 2006. She isn’t married to her ex-wife any longer, they split up and days later she had a new girlfriend named Alexa who she then passed on for some porn star named Nautica. What’s the actual truth? Her myspace photos don’t show any of these tattoos, so she has clearly gotten the bulk of them over the past year.
And there is no way in hel this woman holds a masters in english. Like her myspace page says, she graduated from thornton HS. And that’s it.
I couldn’t care less what people choose to ink onto themselves, all tattoos are purely one’s own business, but I do feel sadness for this woman, depsite what she has said here. She’s clearly got heaps of self-esteem issues. Shit, she’s already 5150 in CA. I do wonder, though, if there was a history of sexual abuse in her childhood.
I think if she likes them then it’s her choice. Who are you people to judge what she does to her body?
Personally, I think the tattoos are alittle..odd and rude.. but if it’s what she wants and if she’s happy with it then more power to her!
God another sad attention seeker.. blah blah blah!
As a cutter would slice deep into their flesh to release a pain they cannot understand, I see where she has chosen to act out her own release for what ails her.
I believe those tattoo’s were done during a positive time, even though they seem negative to most people here. She is trying to understand and cope with her sex addiction and the way she does this is by tattooing what she thinks in her mind, what she feels as a release. This is a positive thing. She dosn’t wish to ruin her relationship with the one she loves, she dosn’t wish to cause harm, or emotional pain, but she cannot help nor change who she is, she can only cope with it the best she knows how, and this is the way she finds a release from it.
I understand why she did this, I support it, like I said, it’s a positive feeling albeit a negative result. If it makes her feel more at ease to do this to herself, then I see nothing wrong with it.
We all have demons in our closets, pains in which we cannot understand. We all have things about us as individuals that make us unbearable to some, yet we know we are like this and cannot change. So we find release in some way. She has found it in modification, just as I have for my own pain and emotional difficulties in life. It’s a tool used in a positive way to cope and I support her 100%, regardless of how I feel about the end result. Which isn’t my place to judge.
Denver eh, I wonder where she kicks it at.
More power to her for decorating her body in a way she sees fit. As for the negative crap people are posting….whatever….you always run into close minded people everywhere you go. Sadly that’ll never change.
Having quite some erotic tattoos on myself, my estimate of her motivations to get these tattoos are that she finds the explicitness exciting and probably even arousing. At least that is how it works for me. I fancy getting an erotic tattoo and having them as my vulgar little secret. The feeling it provokes is perhaps best compared to what it feels like going to work without underwear, wearing a g-string, having navel or nipple piercings or other âsecretâ? piercings, perhaps having sex in public places⦠Of course the arousal is enhanced by the idea that people can notice it sometime, and the excitement can be improved by accidentally showing these hidden secrets. This exhibitional aspect can be compared to showing oneâs body by wearing a mini skirt, bare legs, low chest, narrow pants⦠or perhaps also to showing any tattoo or piercing. Itâs a sexual outlet. The idea of having something more extreme to exhibit, âI eat cumâ? or âFuck my whore pussyâ? will enhance this effect, in a masochistic way, even if the tattoos are not really displayed publicly. In none of these cases, neither of wearing a mini skirt nor of wearing an erotic tattoo, the purpose is to get raped, even though one evidently increases the risk of being attacked by someone out of control. The purpose lies in the personal excitement. The purpose is the positive effect it provokes. Itâs only human!
Of course it is not without risks, and it can easily slip into compulsive or addictive behavior, which can become an important negative side effect. Many people will not understand them and feel offended, insulted or attacked by them. She may therefore need help to keep it under control. But the point is that the tattoos by themselves have a positive meaning.
I like them…
read the interview.
I love her tattoos.
I don’t feel sorry for her at all.
she’s absolutely beautiful.
i think that is proper amazing. fair play to the girl for doing it. each to their own.
having read her interview before posting this.
i can say that i’m not writing this without knowing a little bit.
however in my opinion, i think that personally it isn’t going to help her get over her addiction to write these derogatory things on herself.
and if she ever has kids then this will affect them too,perhaps more :/,
i think it’s awful that there are no female facilities for this addiction though.
and i agree with those who say it makes them sad,especially as she is pretty.
anyway,each to their own i guess.
You’re such a liar Michelle. You said on your myspace page that you are getting a “breast lift, breast augmentation and a tummy tuck all in the same surgery.”
Why would you lie?? Are you ashamed of who you are? You should be.
http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=34217052&blogID=95122822&MyToken=302b6e84-bc3f-49ea-8d1d-d2f2d9200cc0
It appears that she has had those surgeries. I see scars at the appropriate places and I think she’s being very brave and up front about herself and shame is about the last thing she needs more of.
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This is almost sad. How does one call another person a liar without knowing all the facts. I assure you, a tummy tuck does not end with a scar from hip bone to hip bone. IN 1195 I had ovarian cancer and had an ovary removed. Then ended with a scar that was vertical from my pubic bone to the bottom end of my rib cage. 18 months ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I was scheduled for and underwent surgery that comlpetely removed the meat from within my breasts. A plastic surgeon came in behind that operation and made them “tits” again. Though pretty severaly scarred. The cut along the bottom was an exploratory incisn where they looked for more cancer in the areas I have had cancer before. The blog on my my space was designed to be read by people I knew and I left a lot of the medical reasons for my surgeries. Sorry that makes me a liar. Keep attacking me for thinsg you have no idea about. Britni and I are still together, though seperated. Alexa and I lasted 3 weeks and Nautica and I lasted a month. Next thing I am “fucking liar” about? Oh wait, becuase my old my space thing did not include my English degree, I lied about that too. It also did not include several jobs and the last 4 moves either. Did I lie about those too? LOL