At A Glance Author ANDY Contact ANDY@bme.anon When It just happened Artist DEREK LOWE Studio SAINT SABRINAS Location MINNEAPOLIS I am a average middle aged guy who has been fascinated with body art all my life, starting of course with tattoos. I finally got my first tattoo at 38. However, you can't hang around tattoo shops and go to conventions without getting interested in piercing. After I left my business job five years ago, I decided it was OK to get my ear pierced.It was done at Sabrinas also. Most people that know me were shocked and the shock value was alot of fun. I continue to wear a small gold hoop as I like that look for someone like myself.
However, other ideas began fascinating me more and more often. I needed something that was not visible and perhaps add some pleasure. I talked with many piercers and checked out many shops to find someone I would be comfortable with and then of course I had to work up the courage. I thought about nipples or scrotum, a PA seemed too extreme, and always kept coming back to a frenum. Michael Mulcahy, no longer at St. Sabrinas, gave the BME website a couple years ago and I began reading about the experiences. This really helped me in making a decision on which piercing and increased both my courage and my desire to get this piercing, especially experiences submitted by people like myself and in my age group.
I continued to visit there several times over the next two years, always feeling very comfortable with the professionalism by all of the staff, and noticing that I was not always the only older person in there. The staff at this place just do not have an attitude that could possibly make anyone feel uncomfortable.
I met Derek a few months ago and had him put a second ring in my ear just to get comfortable with him. I was so comfortable that I became uncomfortable as now I had no more excuses. Also, his credentials and experience shown at St. Sabrinas website are very impressive. My decision was made, now all I had to do was get it done.
Four days ago I walked in to get my frenum and Derek wasn't there. I wasn't about to change any detail of my plan so I had a sigh of relief as I again had an excuse, and left. But, I knew I would go back the next day when he would be there. The next day came, it was April 2, 2003 and I knew I just had to do this. I was recovering from a recent hernia surgery and thought as long as I'm walking and sitting down slowly, and having no sex, this was the time!
I started getting anxious as I filled out the paperwork and paid my money. Derek recommended a 10 gauge barbell, and 12 gauge the smallest. The 10 looked big to me so we went with the 12 which I already know was a mistake, but not one that can't be corrected.
He seemed to take great care in making the markings and then showed me and explained why. For some strange reason at that point I asked him to leave room for a future PA. Now the moment of truth has arrived as he puts on the forceps, which I hardly felt, and then I heard him open the package which I knew contained the needle that was about to be shoved into my most private part. He told me he would place the needle, which i just barely sensed, and have me start taking some deep breaths. My second breath, he pushed the needle in. I jumped a little bit as it did hurt some but not as bad as my imagination had me thinking it was going hurt. I barely felt the jewelry go in and it was now time for me to admire my new addition. I felt a rush, and very proud and excited that I finally had it done.
That night I woke up three times to check out my new look. I really really like it and am starting to notice some new sensuality. I honestly feel more masculine. Guys, this isn't a gay vs. straight issue anymore. It's about doing something that makes you feel good about yourself and enhances your sexuality. Don't let the little bit of momentary pain keep you from doing this. Also, don't let what other people might think keep you from doing something you want to do for yourself. There is no harm in doing this and the whole experience has been fascinating and rewarding. Maybe, my new toy will keep me from needing Viagra for a long time!
Like my tattoos, number seven is in the design stages, this probably won't be my last piercing either. I do know that Derek will do anything else I decide to have done. I'm still not sure about a PA, mainly because of not being able to stand at the urinal, but I do know already that another frenum is certainly high on my list.