The long view on my nipple piercing
When I was thinking of getting my nipple pierced, I read about a lot of people's experiences on this site, and they influenced my decision. Most of the accounts, though, were written by people who had just had it done days or weeks ago. I took my piercing out two days ago after having it for almost two years. Here's my story. It's not a horror story, but it's not a success story, either.
I had my right nipple pierced one year and ten months ago, when I was 21 years old. I was intrigued and turned on by the idea, but had only been thinking about it for a few weeks. Originally, a friend of mine also wanted one of hers done, but she decided against it the day before we went to get mine pierced. I went to Graceland Tattoo in Wappingers Falls, New York, a place where friends of mine had been tattooed, which seemed clean to me and which had a good vibe. I can't remember the name of the woman who pierced my nipple -- looking at their website, it was probably Allison Lahikainen -- but I had no complaints about the procedure or the care instructions I received afterwards. It hurt a lot, but the pain was certainly manageable, and it was over quickly. I found the procedure weirdly arousing. I had a barbell inserted. The piercing was not completely horizontal -- it went downhill, slightly -- but I don't think that was really noticeable to anyone else. My nipple hurt intensely for about a day after being pierced, and was sore for the next week, but I felt good about it.
After that, I felt less positive about my decision. The piercing was slow to completely heal, even though I rotated the barbell and washed it twice a day with Dial soap, as instructed. Over the next year, the skin near each of the end balls would sometimes swell up, bleed or ooze pus, then it would scab and heal, but the cycle would repeat. After the piercing, I had to warn my then-lover not to touch, which was too bad. The infections stopped occurring as constantly with time, but I didn't derive any pleasure from the pierced nipple during sex or masturbation. I didn't lose sensation in the nipple entirely, but it didn't feel the same as the unpierced nipple -- it didn't feel as good anymore. The difference between the pierced nipple's natural state and its aroused state was not as pronounced; it was like it was half-aroused all the time, but couldn't get it all the way up, as it were. I felt nervous when sexual partners played with it, and it sometimes hurt. It never
felt good. Although I had found the act of having the needle go in arousing, nothing done to it subsequently turned me on.
I really liked the way my nipple looked the whole time it was pierced. Hiding it from family (in sleeping shirts or bathing suits, when trying on bridesmaid dresses, etc.) was sometimes awkward, but manageable. Most of my friends thought it was cool, although the guy I was seeing when I had it done wasn't excited by it and was sad that he couldn't touch it. One thing I didn't expect was the enthusiastic "Wow, you're crazy!" reaction it often got from subsequent male lovers. I'm not a good-girl. I think of myself as a strong, sexy, independent woman, but I'm not crazy -- I felt like men thought that the fact that I had a sexual piercing gave them permission to treat me like an object, and I hated that. I don't know if I'm expressing myself clearly, but the reactions I got made me feel like I do when I hear a man say "Lesbians are hot!" or something. Maybe this is just my hangup, but I advise a woman thinking about getting her nipple or nipples pierced to consider this.
I never used a ring or changed the original barbell my piercing came with. I couldn't get the ball to unscrew, and since I liked the way it looked anyway, I wasn't too concerned. Three days ago, almost two years after I had the piercing done, a sexual partner was playing with the barbell with his lips and tongue, and he pulled on it too hard, causing the skin to partly tear, from one of the the holes almost to the center of my nipple. A day later, I used pliers to remove the barbell and basically taped my nipple back together. After having it out for maybe three hours, I could no longer get the barbell through it. I'm pretty much OK with that. I had a good run, but it didn't feel the way I expected it would, and there were other unexpected drawbacks, as I've just discussed.
I don't know how my nipple will heal, but it's already back to doing more of a normally distinct relaxed-sometimes-and-erect-other-times thing.
I'm not sorry about having it done, but if I could choose again, I wouldn't. I'm really glad I didn't pierce both!
In summary: not everyone gets good sensation from a nipple piercing. Not everyone heals quickly or cleanly. Not everyone likes the attention a piercing gets.
submitted by: Anonymous
on: 11 Sept. 2008
in Nipple Piercing