My Nose Story
I just got out of a very serious two year relationship. When things in my life change, I have to take control. This usually occurs in the form of cutting/dying my hair, but this time I just didn't think that would be sufficient enough to cure the anxiety in my life. My best friend has the cutest nose stud, and I decided that a nose ring would look great on me. So, in passing I mentioned it to my dad, "What do you think about nose rings?" He replied, "I think you are beautiful the way you are, but you are an adult and can make your own mistakes" I took that as a "Go for it!"
This was the time! It was absolutely perfect. I was going to Europe for two months to study abroad, plenty of time for my nose to heal. I had just gotten over a cold, and I didn't have to blow my nose every five minutes. Plus, when I got back from Europe I would be able start training for my blackbelt and my nose would have plenty of time to heal so I could put in a retainer and not worry it getting ripped out.
So, once I had earned the money I needed ($42.80 + tip + the cost of the party afterward = ~$65) my best friend and I went to Skinquake, a local tattoo and piercing place in Btown, and got it done. It went really fast and it was a VERY professional place, very clean and the piercer, Josh answered all of my questions before hand and made sure that he had put the dot in the right place. Claire held my hand and he put the needle in then finally pulled it all the way through and put the ring in, and I could open my eyes and look at it. I LOVED IT! We then went to the Jungle Room (local bar) had a good relaxing evening with some friends, Rum and Coke. (Yes, I'm 21, legal drinking age)
The next day my parents called and asked if I had had a good time out with Claire, and I said "Yeah, I got my nose pierced" my mother's response was "WHAT? WERE YOU DRUNK?" I replied that you can't get your nose pierced when you are drunk, you have to be sober. Then, she hung up on me. I knew my parents wouldn't be happy, but I didn't think they would over react quite like they have, especially after my dad said that I was allowed to make my own mistakes. They have basically said as long as I take it out now they will forget that it ever happened. Ummm...I am NOT going to take it out. I really like it, but I have to remember that my parents are kinda old fashioned but they had always been really good about letting me express myself.
I called back and talked to my dad for a bit, the entire time hearing my mother ranting in the back ground about my stupid decision and how I was acting like a 12 year old...yada yada yada. They then brought up the fact that they are paying for my college tuition. That was low, and I told them so. I haven't talked to them since then, but if they decide to alienate me based on a stupid piercing that they haven't even seen yet, that's their own damn fault. I've been nothing but a good daughter to them, I'm a good student, I plan on getting my PhD, I don't do drugs, I rarely drink, and it's not like piercings are permanent! I've told them numerous times that once my nose heals I will wear a clear stud when I'm around them so they don't even realize it's there, but that really doesn't seem to be making a difference.
It's kinda ridiculous how they are reacting, and this is a bad time for me to be worrying about keeping my parents happy. It's the weekend before finals, and I just don't have time to deal with them.
My advice to those who want to get their nose pierced (no matter how old) is to talk it out with your parents first. I thought I had, but apparently I didn't. If your parents don't want you to do it, then only still do it if you are sure you have to have it. I don't regret my decision not to take it out. I needed it, and still do. My parents are just going to have to get over it and learn to live with it. I'm sure they will come around to it after a bit, it may take some time, but it's probably a good thing I'm going to be out of the country for 2 months. But, I do have to see them between now and then. Hopefully it goes well. But, remember...make sure you need it.
submitted by: Anonymous
on: 01 May 2008
in Nose Piercing