I Can Forget You, But I Can't Forget Your Name on My Wrist
I had been married for about 7 months, and the relationship that I had was not exactly ideal. The primary reason we were together was the daughter that we shared. We had the sort of relationship that could be good for a few days and then complete hell for an equal amount of time. Despite the problems, however, we always worked things out and tried our best to get along.
Both my wife and I are very much into both tattoos and piercings. It had been our original plan to get wedding tattoos instead of rings. Due to lack of financial stability, it took us awhile, but we finally figured out exactly what we wanted and took the idea to a nearby shop. We did not research it very well; we just stopped at the first place we saw. This may have been a mistake. We walked in to Glory Badges, the first shop we saw, and was immediately welcomed by a man named Milt. We then described to him what we wanted, which was each other's names in black on our left wrist with red hearts outlined in black on either side of the name and a black heart outlined in red on the ring finger. He explained that the tattoo on the finger will most likely fade quite a bit and will need to be touched up. We acknowledged this and he then told us that he was booked until next week. He was also going to have his partner do the script for our names the next time she was in the shop. We then set up an appointment and were on our way.
We came back for our appointment and he showed us what his associate had done. We both liked her work and agreed. We then talked about the placement of the tattoos and the style as well. Finally after coming to an agreement we were ready to get to work. I sat down first and Milt began drawing the hearts on either side of my wife's name, which had already been stenciled onto my wrist. Even though drawing a heart is both simple and basic, I was impressed with his ability to place the hearts exactly in the position I wanted them. After about 15 or 20 minutes it was complete. My wife was up next and her experience was almost identical to my own. The cost was about 80 dollars for both of us. We paid Milt and tipped him a fair amount and were on our way.
I failed to mention previously that at this time I was in the Army. While the military does not condemn or forbid tattoos, there are some rules regarding their placement. These rules include, but are not limited to, no tattoos depicting offense material, as well as no visible tattoos. Visible tattoos would include anything on the neck or higher, or on the hand. Well I now had a very visible tattoo on my left hand. My solution to this was to wear a band aid around my finger while around and military personnel. To my surprise, it worked. I was questioned about the band aid, but I simply lied and said that I cut my finger opening a can.
The healing process was fairly short, since the work was pretty small. Although Milt had warned us about the fading, it did not seem to fade all that much. It would need some minor touch up though. The only fading that occurred was in the black heart on the finger. Everything else turned out perfect, on me anyway. As for my wife, she has a problem with her skin rejecting some colored ink. The red in the hearts did not turn out very well for her. In the past I had always been against permanently branding somebody's name on my body, unless it was maybe a mother, father, or child's name. However, I also was under the assumption that our marriage would last forever. Little did I know how very wrong I was. Just a few months later, our problems had only gotten worse. There was more fighting than anything else. We were moving from Colorado to Missouri, and somewhere along the way things got really bad. This was the fight to end it all. After a lot of drama, of which I will not go into great detail, I ended up dropping off my wife and kids at a hotel for her parents to come get her. We have been separated ever since then and our currently working on getting divorced. When I can get enough extra money I will be altering my tattoo. Though I haven't seen it yet, my wife has changed hers into some sort of castle design around her wrist, or something of that nature. I want to make mine into some sort of tribute to my daughter, whom I don't get to see much anymore. The point of my story, however, is that if you are going to get somebody's name tattooed on your body, think twice about it. I'm not saying that I am completely against it. I am simply stating that it was not a good idea in my situation.
submitted by: Anonymous
on: 07 May 2005